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June 27, 2008

Update on Ashu at 3 Years and 2 Months.

No, she has still not become an older sister. Yet. But shes as ready as one as young as her can be. She is still sticking to the name she has chosen for the baby and since we don't have anything better, we are keeping it. Shes all "I ll do this for the baby Ma, I ll do that for baby Ma". But I can so picture her as a "Jealous Jalaja"(JJ as the syndrome is called in my family!) If shes anything like me, she ll eat the baby alive. Im counting on the baby to be more accommodating than her.

So my mom arrived on Friday night. And since then Hd and I have seen only little of Ashu. My mom is behaving like a house elf. She gets up early, does her thing, cooks for us and then Grandma and Grandchild disappear to their room. We hardly see them. Then Ashu is fed, entertained, bathed, dressed, dinner appears on the table, tea is made, clothes folded,... So Hd and I decided to make hay while the sun shines and caught two movies on big screen. We watch football matches together on TV, eat dinner together, don't snap at each other, talk without being interrupted,... You know the saying that a candle flame lights up brighter before burning out? I guess this is our chance for that bright period before the baby comes. And I strongly suspect that Ashu is going to have a problem if my mom picks up the baby. Mom and dad are dispensable, but grandma? She rules!

I can see shes upset that theres no school. Today she asked me "Is today school day, Amma?" and when I told her for the umpteenth time that the school is closed for summer, she nodded in a sad way.

She has become noticeably independent since she turned three. She plays on her own for long stretches with her blocks and dolls and toys making up stories. She does puzzles after puzzles with great interest. She keeps looking at pictures in her books taking in everything. Wears her clothes on her own with only little help from me. If only she ate all on her own and night trained herself out of her diapers! Yes, yes, I want it all!

She has become this annoying kid who has to know everything. What did you say to Appa? What did Appa say? Why did you say Stupid, Amma? What did Appa do amma? Why are you scolding the car on the front amma? Is it a bad boy car? Are you angry? Why are you angry? What are you laughing at amma? What are you reading amma? What is this? What is that? The questions are endless.

Shes painfully shy among strangers. She turns her back to people on the elevator, does not accept gifts from friends, does not say thank you or please, does not say anything, period. But house guests are different. She gets attached to people when they come home. I told her a couple of times to be nice to people and tried to talk to her. I can see that she wants to try but does nt know what to do about it. Shes tongue tied. So I have just let it go. She ll learn in her own time. Whats the hurry to socialize? Hd and I were shy kids too so no surprise there. Dot Thoughts sent an article - 8 way to help the shy child- on the same issue via email. Immensely useful if you have a shy kid. Thanks, Dottie.

By the time I write her next update, she ll be an older sis. Forever.

34 comments:

rayshma said...

hehe... i was a painfully shy kid too. and look at me now. i can barely shut up!
waiting eagerly! for cancerian pino to arrive on the scene... and for the little one becoming an elder sis :)

Priyanka said...

I guess all kids go through different phases, maybe this is her shy phase going on. Its really great that she is asking so many questions, inquisitive kids turn out to be the smartest :)

yaadayaada said...

Cute pictures! Send those to me...

Neera said...

sounds a hell lot like Vansh these days - same questions, absolutely unsocial ...shall read the article

good luck for the baby's arrival!

ddmom said...

she's so cute.. Love her smile..

WhatsInAName said...

My older one was just the same and even though she is still not an extrovert but she has the social etiquettes in place. So, dont ya worry! She will learn with time.
All the best wishes !

desigirl said...

Hey
Just heard - congrats!! so there goes the toast with avakkai for breakfast plan eh?

Collection Of Stars said...

Congrats Boo :)
Just heard the news!

Anonymous said...

Well, I assume the lil one arrived from the comments. Hearty congratulations Boo!!Congratz to Ashu and HD too.

Sudha

Preethi said...

Oh my we are in the same boat as far as the questions go.. nice article on shy kids.. my son is shy too at times!!:P Read my blog and you will know what I mean.. about the questions too, you will see u have company!!

WA said...

You were a shy kid-aa? Hmmmmm. I believe you

the mad momma said...

yup - the brat was okay with the OA and me playing with the bean when she was born. but even today - the moment the grandparents give her attention, all hell breaks loose!

and as for the night training. the only reason i've succeeded is because the bean is a year old. forget abt trying anything new now!!!

Balaji said...

Kavya was - and is - an extremely shy kid. With houseguests too. That is a relief sometimes(not talking to strangers) but difficult when she doesn't say Thank You/Please. But as you said, we've just let it go hoping she'll learn in her own time.

Cute pics :)

Reva said...

Her smiles are so infectious :)
and the JJ bit was funny! I guess if you let her do all that she claims she will do for the baby, peace will reign in the house.

Good wishes to all of you, specially the soon-to-be big sister!

-Reva

yaadayaada said...

Boo delivers her baby girl today June 27th 11 am Swiss time!
Congrats and welcome to kutti Boo!

Me said...

Congratulations !!!

radha said...

Congratulations Boo !

Mystic Margarita said...

Wonderful news! Congratulations Boo, Hd, and big-sis Ashu! :)

Poppins said...

And here she is ! Bog congrats to the Boo household!

b u b b l e s said...

Congratulations boo.. :)
Here's to Mama Boo, Papa HD and Big sis Ashu.. :)

Chips said...

Congratulations Boo! Much love to big sister and little Boo.

P u said...

Congrats to the Boo household! HD has to manage 3 women in the family now... this I gotta see :-) Move back to Bangalore please please!

Aditi's Album said...

Ashu looks so cute in these pictures. And Congrats to Ashu for bcoming a big sister indeed!

Reva said...

Congratulations Boo.. :)

LV said...

Hey Boo,

Congrats on the baby! So good to see
the b'date..mine is on June 28th :-)
She is going to turn out to be an
utterly friendly cancerian :-)
You take care of yourself too.
And lots of love to Ashu big sis!

Lakshmi

SUR NOTES said...

hey just saw the news on poppins announcement column!

congratulations boo!
and to ashu and the father.

and welcome home little baby!

wishing the best for the four of you.

WaitingforSunshine said...

Congratulations Boo :)

Compulsive Dreamer said...

Congratulations Boo! Read the announcement on Poppins announcement central and rushed over the to shower group to read more details.... Great news! Waiting for updates!

WhatsInAName said...

C O N G R A T U L A T I O N S
... and celebrations :)

Lakshmi said...

Boo,

Just realised from the comments that the little one has arrived. Congratulations!

Lakshmi

Manchus said...

Congrats Boo,HD & Ashu!! What a coincidence both Ashu and Pinochio are born on 27th :)

Looking forward to updates once you fully recover and get adjusted to the Baby's routine.

PVS said...

Congrats Boo.

Mama - Mia said...

congrats to you guys and Big sister Ashu!! :)

i am dying to read the update 'coz just went to poppins mom's blog and saw you delivered on 27th and thats when the blog has been posted! :D

cheers!

abha

Imp's Mom said...

congrats... just saw the update on poppins blog.. :)