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April 16, 2011

Bye- Byes and BFFs.

S and I came to Zurich pretty much the same time a little more than 4 years back. I would nt say we clicked immediately. Im sure the prim and proper S said Hi to me so as not to be rude! :) Her daughter, another S, and Ashu are of the same age. Their birthdays are a week apart. Our respective husbands were working for the same company then. This was all it needed to become friends in a strange country. Our friendship grew with each meeting and I think it was sealed when I announced I was pregnant with Antu and she said, "me too!" She went on to have a beautiful baby boy 2 months after Antu was born. I was in heaven. We compared notes on breast feeding, sleep training, teething, ... and we were truly together in sickness and health! :)

Its so difficult to develop friendships once ones out of school and college. There seems to be a little formality especially when you see the other person as the husband's colleague's wife. I think I crossed that stage when more than a year back when I was really sick and Hd was traveling and I picked up the phone and the only person I could call was S. I decided she is my BFF whether she likes it or not! Also, shes immensely creative and talented and has magic in her hands. It would be easy to have her as a friend and admire her instead of being distant and jealous! ;)

We went on many trips together as a family and our daughters bonded. Too bad that Antu and Y could nt follow their sisters' footsteps. (Though Antu did bully the boy whenever she got a chance!) Their decision to go back to India happened very suddenly and before I could get over the shock, they were packed and ready to go. Two weeks is too less to reminisce about the four years together. Eight of us ladies went to dinner on Friday to bid adieu to S and we ended up laughing so much that my jaw still hurts. I could nt have cried even if I wanted to. Then we met them again on Sunday for lunch. Ashu wrote and illustrated a book for her BFF instead of an usual card. It was uber sweet.

Bye bye, dear Friend. You will be sorely missed. Like Ashu said, "Its so unfair!" When I told another friend that S was leaving, her immediate reaction was, "Oh God! What are you going to do?" Sigh! What AM I going to do without you, S? :(

10 comments:

Reva said...

enna oru akka thangachi YY'um neengalum! I remember asking YY the same question when she told me about her bff going back to India.

It's so unfair, I agree!
-Reva

MiM said...

i cant think of one mmmim's colleague's wife that I felt open enough to be fraaaanship with.

even though I really like some of them, i am always wary.

**

it's sad when your bff leaves. i felt terrible when i shifted out from her floor to another.
so her leaving the country wasnt so bad.

Choxbox said...

that's a lovely bye-bye book!

and yes it is unfair indeed. the one thing we hated about r2i-ing. but hey we found more gems soon enough :)

Meera said...

Its so true.. finding friends after school and college is hard... Am sure you will cope well. If not we in cyber space will help you.

weourlife said...

Thats so sad Boo!! And its so true that life is unfair..

SUMANA said...

I had this kind of moments when the husband wondered what i would do without that BFF. Especially post marriage kids when priorities are different and inspite of which you get to nurture such friendships is really nice.

Anonymous said...

What UTBT is going back to Indiava?
You too now pester your hubby to move to the USofA.
-Vidya

Anonymous said...

thanks for bringing tears to my eyes...It hurts to not be there ...thanks. the book is in the same category as her doll...remains under the pillow. fear for it and will get it laminated... you are THE best!

B o o said...

Reva - I know! Double whammy, sigh!

MiM - It is difficult to have fraaanship after a certain age, I tell ya! I envy the kids!!!

Chox - I was really impressed with the book. She drew a see-saw with just one girl at one end at the "I will miss you" page. Genius or what? :D

Meera - awww. thanks.

weourlife - it is, na? sucks!

Sumana - So true. We were friends as a family too! Thats hard to come by!

Vidya - I would rather move to India then! *runs away before YY reads this*

S - hugs. hugs. hugs. *bawls*

Brittanywhvv said...

I had this kind of moments when the husband wondered what i would do without that BFF. Especially post marriage kids when priorities are different and inspite of which you get to nurture such friendships is really nice.