tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post6426543507849436131..comments2024-03-27T19:21:01.376+01:00Comments on Boo's Baby Talk!: Is it the kid or the mom?B o ohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17351744309107088656noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-10628823178387785122007-02-21T22:27:00.000+01:002007-02-21T22:27:00.000+01:00Thanks boo.I had added the labels to the postbut f...Thanks boo.<BR/>I had added the labels to the post<BR/>but forgot to add the label widget as page element. duh!<BR/><BR/>newbie blogger<BR/>very old blog hopperAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-31012986773165422512007-02-21T21:48:00.000+01:002007-02-21T21:48:00.000+01:00Newbie Anon - I just created a new post with an ol...Newbie Anon - I just created a new post with an old date and put up links in them. Not a great idea but it works. But I think with the new Blogger version, you can apply labels to the posts and categorize them. Did you try that?B o ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17351744309107088656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-39478303297618981922007-02-21T21:46:00.000+01:002007-02-21T21:46:00.000+01:00SM - Pray tell me how to correct those kids. I nee...SM - Pray tell me how to correct those kids. I need to learn it badly!<BR/><BR/>Orchid - Right on! I read that post you mentioned and was totally appalled. I was embarrassed myself while reading about that. I just hope with all this judging I am at least half good as I hope to be as a parent! ;)B o ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17351744309107088656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-9412641004739316352007-02-21T21:36:00.000+01:002007-02-21T21:36:00.000+01:00SM - Personally I have had a group of friends in w...SM - Personally I have had a group of friends in which the NIMS were carefree and SIMS were protective. Another group where NIMS were extra protective and SIMS who completely ignored their kids. So I guess it depends on the people and whom we have had a chance to observe.<BR/><BR/>MM - Forget correcting, I cant even ask a kid to STOP when his/her parents are around. Its their job, dammit! <BR/><BR/>DT - I get it. I see it here in Swiss too where the local kids are playing in the fountain and getting drenched and Desi kids standing in a corner and watching. ;)B o ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17351744309107088656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-23844094097336031462007-02-21T21:26:00.000+01:002007-02-21T21:26:00.000+01:00Mommyof2 - I agree. It absolutely depends on the i...Mommyof2 - I agree. It absolutely depends on the individual.<BR/><BR/>Me: Im so happy for your concern. All good now. Got to do some work on the teeth but nothing urgent so may be in my next India trip.<BR/><BR/>Itchy - I totally understand the kids. Its the parents who do not acknowledge or apologize which pisses me off. Do you think they ll stay quiet if we scolded their kids?B o ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17351744309107088656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-16105374160375601442007-02-21T18:09:00.000+01:002007-02-21T18:09:00.000+01:00HiIt's great to see what you have done with this p...Hi<BR/><BR/>It's great to see what you have done with this page.<BR/><BR/>Working around blogger's lack of "categories" (which wordpress has and is a great feature) you have created pages and put links to posts falling under categories.<BR/><BR/>Is there anything i need to know to create something similar? pls to tell.<BR/><BR/>- A newbie @ blogging but hardcore blog hopper who has left comments earlier in your blog:-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-81564511571396425582007-02-21T17:59:00.000+01:002007-02-21T17:59:00.000+01:00Oh vow..this post has taken a different turn all t...Oh vow..this post has taken a different turn all together..especially with NIMS/ SIMS discussion and let me get in on the action too :)<BR/>Boo, my originla comment was for your post.. I agreed with you 100 % on accepting that our children are capbale of misbehavior and that we need to correct them.<BR/><BR/>Second, I am a SIM and I don't know too many NIMS but c'mon it is not only unfair but rude to generalize....I know of many SIMS who not only let their children misbehave but also misbehave themselves.. I wrote a post previously about badly behaved Indian parents at the local library here in Dallas sometime back and I was embarrased....but I would stay away from categorizing and generalizing. Bottomline, watch how you behave and also how your kids behave especially when you are outside of your own space.By Deepa and Supriyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07747804542943614606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-49806614245098105342007-02-21T15:49:00.000+01:002007-02-21T15:49:00.000+01:00I comment yet again!Yes, the generalization is rat...I comment yet again!<BR/>Yes, the generalization is rather unfair and one would need to have a proper sample to make a statement. However, my observation was just that-an observation, arising out of experience. Again, the NIMS in my housing complex may be particularly indifferent or the SIMS particularly careful. <BR/>And I have ticked off several moms for correcting their kids! That is a kind of affirmation for the kids-mom is right and aunty is a witch!Crumbling Cookiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07225812906025561493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-44215186184701950822007-02-21T12:41:00.000+01:002007-02-21T12:41:00.000+01:00nice to see so many varied opinions from different...nice to see so many varied opinions from different sector.. just to elaborate more on my observations.. During Winter (delhi) even at this age (btw i'm not too old ok!) my mom says dont roam outside as it is very chilly outside.. etc.. while I could see from my window all small kids playing at the park at around 7:00 pm (truly it wud be too cold outside).. in a way i guess it's good.. because they become more strong and not like me who get easily infected of these frequent climatic conditions.. because i wasn't as exposed at my childhood days as these kids are.. Basically leaving aside NIM or SIM (as someone cutely named it!), it is always the way the moms are brought up which reflect on kids i guess.. and another thing, if grand mother is still in house it wud certainly be a good effect on kids, since even if the moms aren't that controlling, the GM does ensure the kids aren't behaving in any ruthless manner... but finally it's the mom who shud hold the responsibility of its child behaviour.. (okay romba athiga prasagi thanam panniten... edhavadhu thappa irundha as usual.. forget and forgive.. )Story Tellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00971617892306934969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-83293241399482107162007-02-21T10:56:00.000+01:002007-02-21T10:56:00.000+01:00ouch! ouch! ouch!!!! poor little ashu.. and poor N...ouch! ouch! ouch!!!! poor little ashu.. and poor North Indian moms!<BR/><BR/>i would have corrected the kids if the mother did nothing. <BR/><BR/>SM - no offence taken. i named him Brat knowing it had plenty of negative connotations!!!<BR/><BR/>And as a part north indian part south indian mother... i must say that such generalisations are unfair. you'd need a proper sample survey before saying something like that. i am glad however that the observation at least didnt come from Boo, the author of the post.the mad mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14535453643548976883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-8144981867187215322007-02-21T07:40:00.000+01:002007-02-21T07:40:00.000+01:00DT and Terri's comments-Its not fair to generalize...DT and Terri's comments-Its not fair to generalize I guess. But if you put 10 moms and their kids together, more often than not, u'll find that the north indian mommies(NIM) have the attitude echoed by Boo by the south Indian mommies(SIM) constantly make sure that their kids behave. Its got to have something to do with the culture and lifestyle.<BR/>No offence to NIMS or SIMS.<BR/>Personally I am a south Indian born and brought up in north india. So i consider myself a NIM with SIM attitude for kids behaviours.<BR/>Ok if i write anymore, I am sure i'll lose all my blogpals.Crumbling Cookiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07225812906025561493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-59117810189145284162007-02-21T06:38:00.000+01:002007-02-21T06:38:00.000+01:00I really dislike when kids mis behave and moms & d...I really dislike when kids mis behave and moms & dads stay silent. But to be fair upon the poor parents, sometimes it's really impossible to control one's kids. I have seen it happen and one of my friends confided abt her kid hitting others for no reason. On another occassion a friend's kid was scratching at mine. There are kids who simply do not get it that it is wrong to hit or misbehave and if you hit back at them they take it as a challenge. If there is a middle path, I am ignorant of it, but sometimes i think it's best to ignore or take away the child being hit so that the offendor does not get the pleasure of getting noticed. May be they are attention seeking kind and feel this is the best way to get noticed. sorry a mini post hereItchingtowritehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00763940951418027045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-77011025928192292752007-02-21T02:22:00.000+01:002007-02-21T02:22:00.000+01:00..off topic...boo eppadi keereenga...? dentist kit.....off topic...boo eppadi keereenga...? dentist kitta poitu vandheengala...?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-49725913701961543052007-02-21T00:00:00.000+01:002007-02-21T00:00:00.000+01:00"COMMENT ABOUT NORTH INDIAN MOMS" thats not fair....."COMMENT ABOUT NORTH INDIAN MOMS" thats not fair.. I think it depends on individuals.. Im north Indian mom & as boo mentioned I keep an eye on my kids every second. I don't tolerate bad behavior from my kids..mommyof2https://www.blogger.com/profile/03195439582301723768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-64114808596924036052007-02-20T21:50:00.000+01:002007-02-20T21:50:00.000+01:00DT - Hmm... Im trying to categorize my friends and...DT - Hmm... Im trying to categorize my friends and look in that angle. Its partly true I guess. At least the South Indian mommies being protective that is! But the mother and sons at the park were south indians. As always, you can never genaralize these things. And such observations from a single guy? Im impressed! :)<BR/><BR/>Terri - You think so too? Someone has to do a research on this topic I guess. "Why should Southie mommies relax a bit and let the kids be kids for a while" and "Why should Northie mommies tighten the reins around their kids a bit more" perhaps? Will make an interesting subject! ;)<BR/><BR/>Orchid - You mean you agree with DT and Terri too? Elaborate please.B o ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17351744309107088656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-1065201852869006302007-02-20T21:39:00.000+01:002007-02-20T21:39:00.000+01:00Mommyof2 - It always baffles me when rude people a...Mommyof2 - It always baffles me when rude people are rude all the time and nice people cant be rude even if the situation demands it. Mebbe Im just a coward. Ok, I AM a coward!<BR/><BR/>SM - Exactly and we have to be wary of both offense and defense!!B o ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17351744309107088656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-82896592545056121792007-02-20T19:28:00.000+01:002007-02-20T19:28:00.000+01:00Couldn't agree more!Couldn't agree more!By Deepa and Supriyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07747804542943614606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-31854671796562965832007-02-20T18:32:00.000+01:002007-02-20T18:32:00.000+01:00It's funny d_t said exactly what I was thinking wh...It's funny d_t said exactly what I was thinking when I read the post. I didn't want to comment and be accused of racism, but a lot of northern Indian moms have a "koi nahin, bachcha hai" attitude when their kids engage in bratty behavior.Terri the terrifichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17727012725113389350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-27149068502145766072007-02-20T13:22:00.000+01:002007-02-20T13:22:00.000+01:00I am not sure if i'm eligible to post a comment he...I am not sure if i'm eligible to post a comment here since i'm not yet married.. never the less i go ahead.. i just feel that the north indian moms are mostly fall into the category that you have described.. as far as i have seen, south indian moms are more protective abt their child and they like to keep a 24*7 eye on them... konjam bayam jasthi.. inga (for e.g. delhi).. they just allow the kids to do wht they want.. namabala madiri payam ellam kedaiyadhu..Story Tellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00971617892306934969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-82973737212680001252007-02-20T07:40:00.000+01:002007-02-20T07:40:00.000+01:00I hear u..I wanted to do a post on this as well. H...I hear u..I wanted to do a post on this as well. Have left a comment on Gauri's post.<BR/>The irony is, while the moms sit there and do nothing to stop the brattish behaviour, try saying something to these very brats (no offence to Mad Momma)and they'll rush to defend them.Crumbling Cookiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07225812906025561493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15986701.post-91143828754260774942007-02-20T03:49:00.000+01:002007-02-20T03:49:00.000+01:00Ohh these things get me so mad. Once a girl was do...Ohh these things get me so mad. Once a girl was doing the same & I told her mother to stop her after the 10time she tried to pull the stroller.. that stupid lady still didn't get the clue & went to bother another kid..mommyof2https://www.blogger.com/profile/03195439582301723768noreply@blogger.com